I have seen and heard so many people take other people’s shit, allow themselves being treated badly, agree to all the not-so-right constraints put on them. Seen this in all kinds of relations – friends, family, partners, parent-child, everyone.. Most of us have been on one side or the other. For years I judged and blamed the person suffering, blaming them(myself included) for not knowing their worth, blaming them for allowing themselves to be treated badly, blaming them for being selectively weak; but as the years pass I have come to realize that it is the person’s need for love, that desperate need for affection, it is that which hopes and keeps on saying, ‘just one more time’, ‘ohh they dont mean it’, ‘it is just this one thing, otherwise s/he is perfect’, ‘i can make that compromise for him/her/them’. After seeing so much of it, it suddenly becomes ok.. it becomes something that is just human, not right, not wrong, just human. And contrary to what I used to think, I see that it is a matter of immense strength – to swallow the pride and allow the self degradation.. for those selective people.. I also see that it does not mean that the other set of people are evil people, they just don’t hold the first set that dear, or even if they do, they subconsciously know that they can get away with anything, and still continue getting that importance and affection, or at times it is just fear, fear without any merit, fear of losing that privilege, that importance, that person – not right, not wrong – just human.
I have finally started to see and accept ‘The greys’!
L.I.F.E. 